Have you seen the Slate article going viral this week about the couple who are ticked off they’re having twins? And they even “hoped” to have something wrong with one baby so they’d have justification to have a “selective reduction” to one baby.
If you haven’t, here’s the link to “This Couple is Angry about Having Twins. Hear Them Out.” And here’s their original posts on Babble: “I’m Expecting Twins — And I Feel Like I Ruined My Family” and “Double the Trouble — My wife’s expecting twins — and I’m not happy about it.”
It hurts my heart to hear that these selfish people would feel the need to broadcast the fact that they’re “pissed” to the world. (Chances these kids aren’t going to find out about this someday? Zero.)
But it makes me full-out angry that these jerks didn’t even have an accidental pregnancy — they conceived with help from IVF, and the mother made the call to have two strong embryos implanted.
I’m the first to tell people they probably shouldn’t wish for twins. It’s medically difficult and sometimes even dangerous — especially for the babies. The chances of premature birth and related complications are sky high. We were amazingly lucky to have our preemies come out of the NICU in under an hour with no breathing issues, thanks to steroid shots that did their job of opening their lungs.
And life with twins — or even more than one singleton child — is no picnic. It’s expensive. Exhaustion is constant. The statistics on marriage survival with twins or higher order multiples are terrifying.
But sheesh, hoss up people. You made your choices. Pregnancy is hard. Pregnancy with multiples is astronomically harder. LIFE is hard. For ALL of us, in different ways! So deal with it.